– Contributed by – Claire Casey, the author of the bestselling online program “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever.”
Is it worth dating a man who’s moving too slowly? Why are some men so averse to commit?
You’re dating a quiet, slower man, and they have their own advantages and disadvantages, and depending on what YOU want out of a relationship, I think they can make pretty awesome partners.
The big advantages:
A quiet, slow man is usually very stable, not just emotionally, but also (very frequently) financially. For some people, this is a huge benefit. In other words, you get to be the dynamic, whirlwind person and he provides the grounding for that. You won’t be competing with him for attention either.
Also, a man with a slow, deliberate approach can be quite a pleasure in the bedroom, he’ll take the time to get you where you want to go.
The potential problem:
The reason some women don’t like the slower-paced guys is because it just takes them forever to make a move! You might get frustrated at having to wait on him all the time, and if you’re hoping to commit within a short time-frame, you might have to pass this guy.
But not necessarily! Men secretly yearn for commitment and marriage and in Capture His Heart And Make Him Love You Forever, I teach you how to turn that yearning into a truly primal need.
Slow-paced guys are usually pretty happy for you to lead on making moves, for one thing. So be SURE to communicate openly and clearly with him on the important stuff. This means you have to know what you want, of course, so if you’re not clear, GET clear.
And when it comes to commitment, the key to working with a man like this is to let him know your timeframe. If you hope to get married within a year after starting to date someone, you need to be able to let him know this in a non-threatening way.
I talk more about this in “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever”!