– Contributed by – Felicity Keith, author of “Language of desire”. Felicity teaches women how to unleash their inner vixen on their terms and enjoy the love they deserve.
It should come as no surprise that guys dig dirty talk. But have you ever considered the reasons why this form of sexual play is just so dang arousing to him?
Let’s take a dive into why dirty talk drives him wild…
1. It’s an arousing surprise
If you have a ladylike public persona but behind closed doors you let explicit phrases tumble from your mouth, the contradiction gives him a sexy charge of excitement.
Even if you aren’t the pinnacle of propriety, seeing you transform into a naughty vixen gives him a titillating thrill. This heightens his senses and makes everything that much more arousing for him.
2. He feels like a sex-god
When you let loose with a string of moans and screams mixed with a variety of sexy play-by-plays and dirty directives, you show him just how much you F#$*king love what he’s doing to you.
Your unbridled enthusiasm tells him in no uncertain terms that he’s rocking your socks.
3. Your confidence attracts him
A woman who has the self-confidence to use dirty phrases to get what she wants in bed is downright seductive. Men are drawn to women who aren’t afraid to express themselves sexually.
Generally, your use of dirty talk clues him in that you are far from uptight or inhibited. A good time is in store for you both!
4. It shows you are totally in the moment
Enthusiasm is such a huge turn-on for men. A quiet partner can be misunderstood as a bored or distracted partner, and that can put a big damper on the sexy mood.
When you talk dirty, you are 100% present and in the moment. That level of engagement with what’s happening between you serves to validate that he’s pleasing you.
All of the reasons above activate different chemicals in his brain and are hitting some of the big triggers for his sex drive.
Who knew that there was some science behind talking dirty?
Of course, not every woman feels comfortable launching into dirty talk, and if that sounds like you, you are not alone. But don’t let your fears stop you from incorporating this fun technique into your sex life.
In the program Language of Desire, I teach you ways to get over any shyness you may feel and give you over 200 dirty phrases that you can fine-tune to suit your taste level!